Create a new appointment

My experience of scheduling appointments hasn't always been a comforting experience for me. Some have made me jittery, anxious, or even stressed, if I'm being honest. These appointments can vary from doctor visits to job interviews and even wedding days. Each one represents a potential step toward something significant and, hopefully, positive and meaningful in the future. This underscores the importance of preparation, refreshing our minds, and being ready.

Before scheduling an appointment, we typically recognize the necessity to address a specific issue with an individual or situation. I've faced disappointments in job opportunities, relationships, business endeavours, and my personal health. While disappointment can leave you feeling deflated, it's crucial not to continue living in this state. In my experience, creating a "new appointment" is a way to get back on track.

In order, to do this successfully, one needs to ask themselves a few questions including what you learnt from the last appointment or disappointment.

• What lessons have you taken from the last appointment that you should avoid repeating? Life involves growth, and without grasping why things didn't go as planned, we might be navigating without direction. Although this isn't always feasible, we must make the effort. For instance, if you didn't secure the job, seek feedback rather than presuming you know the issue. If someone missed a date, discover the reason instead of assuming they stood you up on purpose. If you didn't secure the business deal or funding, find out the reason; don't just assume your proposal wasn't sufficient..

• Begin with the end goal in mind, focusing on where you aim to reach. This approach will help you identify any gaps. Encountering an obstacle doesn't mean you're permanently stuck or unable to overcome it. Instead, you find a way around it by keeping your ultimate goal or destination in focus. This is why having a vision is essential. As we progress on our journey, we perceive things on different levels, and the vision I'm referring to here is the one in your mind's eye.

• Identify how the bump can become a stepping stone to your destination. Bumps can also serve as catalysts for re-evaluating our goals and aspirations. Sometimes, a setback can prompt us to reconsider whether we are on the right path or if we need to adjust our destination altogether. This re-evaluation can lead to the discovery of new passions or interests that align more closely with our values and desires. In this way, a bump can redirect our journey toward a more fulfilling and meaningful destination, ultimately enhancing our overall satisfaction in life

• Be intentional about what you are doing with your time, channel your energies toward productive activities, ventures and relationships.

Ultimately we must "learn to look at disappointments or appointments as learning spaces." What we learn can range from our communication skills to our ability to perceive need to our knowledge bank, whatever it is we can improve.

The flow toward an appointment

1) There is a need whether discovered by you or someone else.

2) There is an assessment of what or who can meet that need.

3) There is an assessment of the resources required to accommodate the what or the who.

4) A time for the appointment is identified.

"The fastest way to get over your last disappointment is start preparing for your next appointment."

"What we focus our time on can consume us, what we give space to in our minds can grow and take up the necessary intellectual property required for something better".

What we allow take root has potential to become a plant 🪴 the kind of plant growing in your mind depends on you When we make a new appointment with destiny we are refusing to give space to the disappointment any longer.

Dealing with the hurt of disappointment

Many times what is stopping us from moving on is not admitting we were disappointed in the first place!

You had an expectation, it did not come through, you were disappointed - acknowledge it.

The first step to moving forward is acknowledgement.

When we admit our true feelings about a situation we are able to figure out what to do. By denying it we hide the truth and we compound the problem because the emotion has no place for constructive release.

The second step is to reflect and release.

When we do not process the disappointment it has potential to drive us through paths we had no intention of going down, paths that might take us further away from our predetermined destination.

"It is normal to allow a grieving period following a disappointment but even this period should be reasonable and proportionate with the size of the disappointment."

The about of time I spent grieving over the loss of my mum is different from the about of time I have spent grieving over a job prospect that did not work out. We need to be conscious of this and learn to communicate this to the people in our lives so they are better positioned to help us through such seasons.

The third step is identifying gaps.

Time is a very valuable commodity. We can buy lots of things but time isn't one of them. Also opportunity is never the same the second time round or the third or the fourth which is why ceasing opportunities when we can is crucial to the journey. However, if we have not taken time to close the gaps identified in the last disappointment it makes taking on the new opportunity difficult.

Finally, create a new appointment because it is within your gift to do so.

Be blessed!